Hi, and welcome to my blog!
I am Maria, a 36 year old Norwegian girl (can you still call yourself a girl at that age? haha) living in Copenhagen with my Danish husband Anders and 4 kids under 3. I have an Instagram account called Triplets_of_copenhagen, where I have shared my life as honestly as possible since I found out (to my BIG surprise) that I expected triplets in April 2018. It was also a very big surprise to me when I all of a sudden got 200.000 new followers in the time of a week, and suddenly became a little bit of internet famous with articles about me all around the world. I have lately become kind of a spokesperson when it comes to the reality of postpartum life and all that comes with it, which I am very happy to have contributed to putting on the agenda. And now I’m ready to start a new chapter with this blog!
I have wanted to have a space where I can write longer texts about my everyday life as a mother of four, but also about more personal topics. A space where I can share other passions of mine as well, like music, film, art, fashion, food, etc, with Copenhagen as the beautiful backdrop it is. The last three years have been so life changing: I’ve given birth twice, changed job from the TV business to the very different world of documentary film, moved away from friends and family in Norway (1.5 years ago and am still experiencing a bit of a language barrier at times that prevents me from showing my whole persona) and am currently in a situation where I am juggling my life with a husband, a toddler and three babies with different needs. And I feel that I have lost myself a bit on the way.
There are many aspects of why I feel this way. At the core is the physical aspect – my body. I’ve been pregnant twice, the second time the extreme case of a triplet pregnancy – which really took it’s toll on my body. It has left me with a huge separation of my abdominal muscles (diastasis recti), which means I have a really weak core and will have to work a lot with this in the time to come – and maybe will end up having surgery. (I’ve written more about that in this post.) In the last three years I have been wearing mainly pregnancy clothes, nursing clothes, sweatpants and t-shirts with spit-up on it, AND I have had to put all my pretty clothes away. (Because of lack of space, they are actually put in an external storage. Boohoo.) There was a time where I used to dress kind of cool! I’ve always loved clothes, fashion and especially vintage clothes, and had a playful approach to it. The feeling of having a well put together outfit, always made me feel better about myself. Now I only wear the same few clothes every time I go out of the house.
Secondly I now live in a new town where I don’t have many friends and close ones, and I feel a bit like a fish out of water. I am a really social person – an extrovert that get energy from being with other people – and I used to have a very busy social life back in Norway. (Even after Mikael was born.) I really enjoy all the time I spend with my family – I love all of the precious baby time and watching my toddler growing into the cutest little person. I think we are doing really well as a new family of six, mostly because Anders and I are a really good team and manage to keep a calm atmosphere at home. Most of the time, at least. Even though it has been, and still is really tough with so little rest, I feel that I have managed to stress down and go with the flow of everything. But at the same time I feel a bit restless in getting my stuff back together and to get back on my feet again. It has soon been a year since I started my sick leave at week 17 (because of the risk that followed with the triplet pregnancy), and I have been at home a lot more than I am used to, to say the least. I will still be partly at home with the babies until they start kindergarten in the fall – right now I’m out of the house for 2 hours every weekday working with social media, but come May Anders and I will start to split the weekdays between us so that we have whole workdays.
I think this blog could be a nice outlet for me to speak my mind about issues that concern me, a place where I can share my everyday life with all its ups and downs and also maybe a way for me to find back to the old me – or rather a new start to get into a place where I feel a sense of self again – not only as a mother and wife.