Hi, and welcome to my blog!
I am Maria, a 36 year old Norwegian girl (can you still call yourself a girl at that age? haha) living in Copenhagen with my Danish husband Anders and 4 kids under 3. I have an Instagram account called Triplets_of_copenhagen, where I have shared my life as honestly as possible since I found out (to my BIG surprise) that I expected triplets in April 2018. It was also a very big surprise to me when I all of a sudden got 200.000 new followers in the time of a week, and suddenly became a little bit of internet famous with articles about me all around the world. I have lately become kind of a spokesperson when it comes to the reality of postpartum life and all that comes with it, which I am very happy to have contributed to putting on the agenda. And now I’m ready to start a new chapter with this blog!
I have wanted to have a space where I can write longer texts about my everyday life as a mother of four, but also about more personal topics. A space where I can share other passions of mine as well, like music, film, art, fashion, food, etc, with Copenhagen as the beautiful backdrop it is. The last three years have been so life changing: I’ve given birth twice, changed job from the TV business to the very different world of documentary film, moved away from friends and family in Norway (1.5 years ago and am still experiencing a bit of a language barrier at times that prevents me from showing my whole persona) and am currently in a situation where I am juggling my life with a husband, a toddler and three babies with different needs. And I feel that I have lost myself a bit on the way.
There are many aspects of why I feel this way. At the core is the physical aspect – my body. I’ve been pregnant twice, the second time the extreme case of a triplet pregnancy – which really took it’s toll on my body. It has left me with a huge separation of my abdominal muscles (diastasis recti), which means I have a really weak core and will have to work a lot with this in the time to come – and maybe will end up having surgery. (I’ve written more about that in this post.) In the last three years I have been wearing mainly pregnancy clothes, nursing clothes, sweatpants and t-shirts with spit-up on it, AND I have had to put all my pretty clothes away. (Because of lack of space, they are actually put in an external storage. Boohoo.) There was a time where I used to dress kind of cool! I’ve always loved clothes, fashion and especially vintage clothes, and had a playful approach to it. The feeling of having a well put together outfit, always made me feel better about myself. Now I only wear the same few clothes every time I go out of the house.
Secondly I now live in a new town where I don’t have many friends and close ones, and I feel a bit like a fish out of water. I am a really social person – an extrovert that get energy from being with other people – and I used to have a very busy social life back in Norway. (Even after Mikael was born.) I really enjoy all the time I spend with my family – I love all of the precious baby time and watching my toddler growing into the cutest little person. I think we are doing really well as a new family of six, mostly because Anders and I are a really good team and manage to keep a calm atmosphere at home. Most of the time, at least. Even though it has been, and still is really tough with so little rest, I feel that I have managed to stress down and go with the flow of everything. But at the same time I feel a bit restless in getting my stuff back together and to get back on my feet again. It has soon been a year since I started my sick leave at week 17 (because of the risk that followed with the triplet pregnancy), and I have been at home a lot more than I am used to, to say the least. I will still be partly at home with the babies until they start kindergarten in the fall – right now I’m out of the house for 2 hours every weekday working with social media, but come May Anders and I will start to split the weekdays between us so that we have whole workdays.
I think this blog could be a nice outlet for me to speak my mind about issues that concern me, a place where I can share my everyday life with all its ups and downs and also maybe a way for me to find back to the old me – or rather a new start to get into a place where I feel a sense of self again – not only as a mother and wife.
Hi, and thank you for sharing your story and beautiful family. I just found your blog, so everything is new, but I can’t find (if you even shared it) the full names of your babies and how you chose them. Keep up the excellent work, Momma!
Thank you so much 🙂 Their names are Iben, Filip and Agnes. I will share a post about their names soon at my instagram profile.
I was searching for living in Copenhagen as a new mum and your page popped up. Your family is beautiful :). I am moving to Copenhagen with my husband and 7 month son in a couple of months and wanted to know as much as possible before I get there. As you mentioned, language will probably be a huge barrier for me and I’m a bit worried but let’s see how things go. Loved reading your blog. Made me feel less anxious.
Thank you so much, and best of luck with the moving! <3
Greetings from Michigan, USA.
I have been following your instagram posts for quite a while and just wanted to tell you how much I appreciate your honest take on pregnancy and motherhood, I think you and Anders are amazing! Also, it’s been incredibly interesting to see how family life can be so similar and so different around the globe. Thanks for the honest glimpses into your life and I continue looking forward to reading your blog and seeing your posts!!
Thank you so much! That is nice to hear. 🙂
I admire you a lot 🙏
I become a mum of little baby girl 2weeks ago and I am done already – feeling down, tired, upset with not knowing whats wrong with little one when she us crying … and than there is you – with a boy and three babies 🙏🙏
I follow you on Instagram and looking forward seeing your posts every day …
Fingers cross 👍🏻
Thank you so much, and congrats with your little one! <3
I started following you while we were both still pregnant- my son (child nr.3) was born in October. I really appreciate your honest and open approach to social media and really relate to some of the feelings you’re describing. We moved to a new city when nr 1 was still tiny and I had to find friends and build up a career. I felt quite lost and lonely that first year as a mommy. And now I have started having something that feels like a minor anxiety attack- sometimes it’s just all too much… and too little sleep and time 😉
I feel you <3 Take care, and hope you'll get some me-time as well
Looking forward to getting your incredible honesty on all topics! I started blogging back when Web 2.0 was the new toy in town. It’s a great vehicle for all your needs, so good luck!
Thank you so much! Look forward to get started for real! 🙂
You are a great mama! Keep doing what you’re doing!
Love from USA
Thank you so much, you’re sweet <3
I’m so happy you’ve started this blog! I stumbled upon your instagram when your story was advertised by my e-mail provider (still with your huge belly!) and I’ve been looking at your cute baby photos and the amazing journey you guys are taking ever since. I really admire the way you handle your life with four little kids and I’m looking forward to reading more about you and your life here. 🙂
Thank you so much! <3
Hello from St. Louis, Missouri!
I follow your instagram. You have beautiful kids and I love the look of your apartment. Looking forward to reading more posts!
Thank you so much, I really appreciate it. <3
Stort tillykke med dit nye projekt,! Jeg har fulgt mig og din families rejse og den enorme kraft præstation du har gennemført. Må din rejse mod det nye blive fyldt med lys og glæde kære.
Tusen takk! Jeg har lagt merke til din støtte på veien. <3 Veldig hyggelig.
I love your Instagram and I know I will love reading more about you on your blog. Congratulations and let’s go
Yay! Thank you <3
Like I said at Instagram, you’re my hero and I want to follow your way back to your new self <3
Thank you, that’s so nice to hear. <3
Looking forward to reading more from you 🙂
That’s so nice to hear 🙂
Love your instagram. Your children are so cute. I just love your home and design. So a blogg gives that extra dimension, your thought. Thanks that you let us in to you and your familys life.
Thank you so much! <3 That is really nice to hear.
Jeg skriver på norsk, men la det ikke lure deg, jeg er fra Polen 🙂
Jeg følger ditt instagram og beundrer hverdagen for 4 små barn.
Jeg er glad du har satt opp en blogg og lykke til. Jeg vil lese med stor glede 🙂
Tusen takk! :-))
Everything is in danish, so I hope I’m sending a comment about your new post. Congrats on the blog! I love following your Instagram account, it’s so honest and inspiring. Keep it up, I wish I had the time to share my experience as a mother.
Lots of love from Mexico,
Thank you so much! <3 We are working on getting everything translated to English, hope it will be soon.