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Working or staying at home with your kids? Honest answers about expectations and reality from mothers all around the world

I published a post on my Instagram page last week after a follower wrote to me and asked if I felt guilt and/or pressure to be working, saying that she felt as it was looked upon as selfish to not stay at home with your kids in the US if you could afford to. I answered that here in Denmark it is expected that women go back to work after a year of parental leave. And that I don’t have any guilt, because the kids have pretty short days, so the work/life balance is good in our family.  ⁣And that I also think it is beneficial for my children to be in daycare, because they learn how to socialize with other kids, and learn and do things I wouldn’t think about offering them. ⁣I added that I was aware of that we have a system where we pay high income taxes and get highly subsidized childcare in return. An in the end I asked: “But aside from that, I am interested in hearing what the norm or expectations are (towards moms working or staying at home) where you live?”

 

I got a lot of answers (thank you so much!), and it was really interesting reading through them all. Women wrote about what the norms are where they live, but also about the general conditions for mothers after having given birth. It was especially heartbreaking reading some of the comments from mothers from places where they do not get much parental leave, if anything at all. In the US most mothers do not get any paid leave at all and may loose their jobs if they are not back to work after 6-8 weeks. And in Europe mothers get very little leave in both the Netherlands, Belgium and Switzerland, where they only get paid leave for about 3 months.

 

Some people asked if I could save some of the answers, so I took screenshots of several of them so you can read for yourself under here in alphabetical order from 30 different countries around the world. Here we go!

 

1. Albania

 

2. Australia

3. Austria 

4. Belgium

5. Bosnia

6. Brazil

7. Canada

8. Chile

9. Costa Rica

10. Croatia

11. Czech Republic

 

12. Denmark

 

13. Finland

14. France

 

15. Germany

16. Hungary

 

17. Ireland

18. Italy

 

19. Latvia

20. Lithuania

21. The Netherlands

 

22. Norway

  

 

23. Poland

 

24. Romania

25. Spain

 

 

26. Sweden

27. Switzerland

28. Turkey

 

29. UK

 

30. USA

          

 

 

 

4 comments

  • Ulrike

    Så utrolig interessant!! Noe av det forferdelig trist lesing. Det er jo helt hjerteløst noen steder!! Synes det er SÅ BRA at du løfter disse temaene. Også tenker jeg at det er jo ikke bare hårreisende på grunn av den vanskelige posisjonen man blir satt i følelsesmessig, helsemessig og praktisk, men også fordi jeg tenker at det er jo en manifestasjon av den utrolig lave respekten for selve det å skape liv, og livet i sin begynnelse!! Altså morskapet og barna og familien! Anno 2020!!! Haha herregud kjenner jeg blir helt sint her. Men hvertfall, begynte å skrive for å si takk, og bra jobba, stå på, du er rå!! 👍👋☺️☺️

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  • Hildegunn

    hilsen fra Norge. Jeg har sett serien trillingliv på NRK og det må være tøft å gå et svangerskap med 3 unger i magen. Du er tøff og sterk. Liker veldig godt å følge deg og ønsker selv å bli mamma en dag,. Er Mikael født i norge? kommer han til å lære både norsk og dansk? Jeg liker veldig godt danmark og har vel de siste året forelsket meg mer danmark pga en hobby jeg har. Ønsker deg og din familie alt godt. Veldig vlotte og vakre barn du har.

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    • Triplets of Copenhagen

      Tusen takk, det var hyggelig å høre 🙂 Mikael er født i Norge ja, og forhåpentligvis vil han lære å snakke norsk flytende også. 🙂

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